The one thing you can count on in life is unpredictability. You don’t know what will happen tomorrow, next week/month or year because life is fluid and ever-changing despite our efforts to try to control outcomes, predict scenarios and micromanage our schedules. There is nothing “wrong” with trying to manage our lives with calendars/appointments/“grinding it out”. It only becomes a problem when our peace is dictated by the outcomes of our attempts to control. We won’t attain much peace in our lives if we our operating under the sentiment “my way or the highway.” And many of us do approach our lives with this rigid way of thinking because we are human and hardwired for control. When something goes awry, negative thoughts and ineffective coping skills can emerge and send us into an unhealthy mental head space if we are not prepared to meet challenges with an open, surrendered mentality.
These last few months have presented challenges that I never pictured interrupting my timeline of what’s next in my life. I’ve been forced to relinquish control and practice acceptance, despite the pain and fear that I have been met with. And none of that has been easy but it has brought me to a new level of self-awareness that in some ways I’m strangely thankful for.
When we meet obstacles with an open heart, despite the painful feelings we experience, we allow ourselves the opportunity to deal with the emotions rather than pacifying ourselves with self-defeating strategies. As I continue to navigate this stressful time in my life, my hope is too continue to trust that surrendering to my experience and emotions will serve me much more peace rather than trying to grasp onto control and trying to manipulate the experience.
Just.let.it.be.
(Flowers are a perfect demonstration on this concept; they keep blooming no matter the weather and through their growth, they become beautiful.)
A Rae of Love 